Flint, in New York
4 April 06
Let’s face it: the saga of the single white female looking for love (or lust) in the big city has been done. To fucking death. While there are still occasional standouts in the genre, when I read yet another why-can’t-I-find-a-decent-man blog, watch yet another Sex and the City-esque program, or wipe my ass with pages torn from yet another cynically-marketed chick-lit novel, I feel like I’m stuck in a recursive loop. Everything there is to say about white bourgeois pairings has been said a million times already.
This is why Flint had me at “hello.” Not only does he offer an all-too-rare male perspective on sex and dating in the big city, but his blog reflects the true diversity of New York relationships—a far cry from the whitewashed fantasyland we usually read about. Flint sounds neither boastful nor apologetic; he reveals his inner life rather than simply rattling off a litany of conquests.
There’s a poem I read in some lurid Marilyn Monroe bio when I was about 13 that I’ve never been able to put out of my head. It’s something about, “This is the wisdom, to make prayers and wish nothing of the the gods, to kiss the lips and stroke the hair, to have, to hold and in time, let go.” I’ve never been able to find the book again to get it right, but that pretty much sums up my approach to relationships.
He must be doing something right—you didn’t hear it from me, but the blogger chicks at the NYC Perverts’ Saloon were making goo-goo eyes at him all night.
[Props to Chelsea Girl]
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# chelsea girl 4 April 06
That’s right, baby, I’m only white on the outside. On the inside, though, I’m pink, and maybe red, and probably brown and then there’s the bluish bits and the yummy grey matter.
And Flint rocks. Remember, he introduced himself to me, and then I introduced him to you. In the overlapping Venn Diagram of Ethnorotica and pretty dumb things, there is Flint.
# Viviane 4 April 06
Ah yes, CG. You were pleased you made the connection. Sounds like you recruited another for the Saloon. Good girl.
# Flint 5 April 06
Whoa! I’m much flattered, and rest assured, the girls could not have been the only ones making googly eyes. It was all I could do to keep my manners with so many beautiful and smart ladies around. And thank you very much for the introduction, Chelsea Girl, it’s not often I’m vouched for by such an erudite and attractive woman. Was a pleasure to meet everyone, and I would definitely love to be at the next one of these things.
# Laughing Man 5 April 06
Heh… right now men all over NYC are probably starting sex blogs so they can get in on the parties.
# Les 5 April 06
I must say, Flint had me at hello as well ;)